Archives for the month of: September, 2013

I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my life. I know this because I whole heartedly believe that everything happens for a reason. I am exactly where I am supposed to be. Who I am is well none of your concern but I am who I am at this point in my life because of my past experiences. Who I am is a strong, independent man. One who fights for what he believes in. I am proud of all that I have accomplished in my life. I am stronger than most people give me credit for. I am wiser than I let on. I am meant to be something. Just wait and see.



I am deeply saddened that Chris Christie is still opposing same sex marriage, as if gay couples are hindering his ability to run the state of New Jersey “well”. It is my belief that he should shut the fuck up and not speak about marriage, because that does not have any place in government. He should however be worried about the fact that people are still without homes from Hurricane Sandy. So lets prioritize Christie and focus on what really matters and let everyone love who they want and marry who they wish.

There is not such thing as gay marriage; only marriage and love. Love who you want, marry who you want. 

Love is Love. 

Inspiration comes to me when I least expect it. I don’t mind it at all. I am at a bar this past Monday called Beauty Bar, it used to be a beauty salon; turned club. It is really cool. Anyway, there was a benefit there to raise money for the AIDS Run and Walk of Chicago. Called Salonathon: it was a mixture of poetry, singing, dancing, and a drag show. One of the performances particularly stood out to me. A co-worker of mine who transitioned to a woman sang a song (Beautifully I might add) about having the heart of a woman and how strong women are. It brought me to tears because of many reasons. But the main one is that she transitioned from a MtF (Male to Female) and is now a who she is meant to be her body matches her mind/soul and my God she is stunningly beautiful. And for her to sing about having a woman’s heart was just inspiring. It was a night full of exciting open minded people. I find that the most interesting, kind hearted, loving, generous people are the ones you never take the time to get to know. So to me a favor and next time you meet someone, get to know them, the real them.



I believe in sex positivity. I believe people should have the right to sleep with whoever they want, with as many different people as they choose. I don’t believe in sluts, whores, man-whores, etc. These terms make it seem like you are better than the person you are referring to, when in reality you are no better or worse than them. I think sex should be celebrated, we are liberated, free people. I think as human beings we should be able to fully express ourselves in every aspect of our lives. Sadly, sex is such a taboo in society that talking about it is shamed, which leads people to make unwise decisions in your sexual lives. Sexual health is an overall part of you health and wellbeing so why not talk about it with your doctors, do not feel ashamed of the sex you are or are not having. You are the owner of your body and you have the right to say “Yes”, “No”, and “Let me think about it”. No one on this earth has the power to tell you what you can and cannot do in the bedroom (or wherever you like to get it on).  You are in charge of you, and only you. Your body is usable and it is beautiful. The reason I have such strong feelings is because I recently just started a new job in the HIV and AIDS field where I will begin testing those who wish to be tested for HIV and I will also be a counselor and doing some sexual education classes. I believe that sex should be openly discussed, because that is how you make HIV preventable, through correctly teaching people on the facts of HIV and AIDS and how to better protect yourselves. *Fact* You CANNOT get HIV through SALIVA. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Part of my job is to hand out condoms, when the older generation sees what I am doing I get a sassy response or a dirty look as if they have never had sex before. Open discussion leads to great conversations. I am a very open person so those who ask me questions about my sexual health I will openly answer as long as you ask in a polite manor at the proper time. I believe in doing this because people should be allowed to express themselves in anyway they wish. Again, you are in charge of your body. PROTECT THE SKIN YOU ARE IN. Love few, love many, or love all. I am not one to judge, nor should you be either.